![]() Passing the baton in a relay don’t take it and the race stops. Because attacks are aimed at the illusion they do not, cannot satisfy and so the game has to continue until it is realised to be an illusion and fruitless. Insults and attacks are rarely personal and even if they are intended to be personal the offerer is attacking an illusion their interpretation or story of you is what they insult or attack. Recognise the ego is what is attacked or defended and the ego is an illusion, a story of who you think you are not who you really are. Ponder, then decide, then manoeuvre, logically and safely.ĭetach from attack – detachment is choosing not to have a drama to defend.Įxplore not feeling attacked despite attacks. Instead of crashing your car, you gently apply the brakes, stop, engage neutral and assess the situation. Practice offering a positive alternative or encouraging solution based thinking. Try a ten second countdown instead of or before a reply. Insults that don’t land cannot spread or develop. Pretend there is no one to get hurt because underneath the ego (illusion) there isn’t anyone to hurt. The darts (attacks, insults, arguments etc) don’t land you are invisible. Imagine that you are an invisible dartboard – visualise darts passing through you. Instead of hitting the tennis ball back you choose not to return the volley – let it pass you let the game stop. Instead of adding fuel to the fire resist retaliation and cut the momentum before it escalates. Recognise that other people’s reality is not your reality – their reality is their business. Here are some pointers for practicing the art of non-reaction: ![]() Does it really matter who chose the largest cake?Īrguments are like tennis matches – if you don’t return the ball the game stops. ![]() When you consider the bigger picture most arguments are insignificant, unimportant, even if they seem incredibly important at the time. Life is too short to spend your precious time in a series of sagas and battles and fortunately through non-reaction you can make better choices. When you choose not to join an argument or follow a negative thought your life improves for the better and you can focus on the positive. During the course of an “average” day you will no doubt get plenty of offers which you can practice declining, plenty of opportunities to become aware. The art of non-reaction is making conscious choice not to join an argument, or follow non-productive thinking. It can happen in an instant or take hours and the deciding factor is awareness the noticing. Have your thoughts made it out of your mind into action, be it speech, written or physical action? If you can catch your thinking and notice your thoughts, you can change your thinking change your thoughts and improve your day. The guardian is your consciousness the warden of your thinking. Your thoughts are not necessarily your reality the proof is your dreams, fantasy and imagination.Īttack and defend thoughts non-peace thoughts are still only thoughts unless they make it into actions. Speed of recovery, speed of noticing and making a conscious choice away from erroneous or negative thinking is the crucial factor. A story builds and your mood can change all from a thought. The focus of attention is a choice yet the choice can get forgotten or overlooked and thought can escalate or spiral. Twenty seconds of thinking can ruin your day only if you let it.
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